Of all things, keep in mind that your kids didn't choose any of this and it's not their fault whatsoever. No matter what, even if the kids are making comments about daddy being mean or I don't like daddy, whatever the case may be, they do tend to say things like that as if to be consoling a parent, and they may be doing the exact same thing on his end saying the same about you to console him. Just saying, keep the kids in mind when you're saying things in their hearing abiltiy, or seeing things you're doing. I doubt anyone does it on purpose, but in the heat of the moment of hurt and anger parents tend to lose sight of the kids and bad things happen. Do certainly defend yourself and the kids, but take the high road otherwise. It usually pays off in court if you do and you're likely to get things your way.