For something like an automatic transmission, where you have fluid doing different things in different locations in the tranny there is really no perfect place to monitor temps. What’s important is to establish a baseline and just watch it for deviations versus a specific number.
This is assuming of course your transmission is healthy to start. Mine certainly seems to be as it works as designed. Shortly after I bought the Blazer I dropped the pan to check the fluid and replace the filter. Fluid was clean and red, no debris in pan. A few thousand miles later I again dropped to pan to remove that leaking kick down cable linkage. Everything looked great so I can conclude, in the absence of anything to the contrary, that the transmission is healthy. Now I’ll just watch for changes.