Just to clarify, I will be finding tdc with my stick again, and then I will take the dist cap off and probably find the rotor not pointing at #1 and I will need to turn it so that it does?
If by "turn it", you mean the distributor - then no, that is not going to help. You have already tried that and even rotating the distributor as far as possible - till it hits something - you were unable to bring the timing into proper range. Put the distributor back in its normally indexed position (roughly as shown below) and then pop the cap.
If you do find the rotor to be way off the #1 post (one tooth off shifts the rotor about 30 degrees = about halfway to the next post) then the distributor should be pulled and re-stabbed.
This time before you drop it in, manually index the rotor CCW about that 30 degrees because it will shift CW the same amount as the gears fully mesh. And don't forget to get the slot in the oil pump drive shaft lined up with where the tang on the end of the distributor shaft will finally end up. Use a long screwdriver to position the slot to where it needs to be.
The image below shows how being one tooth off effects rotor position. But, in your case it sounds like the gears did engage one tooth off - but the other way and so the timing is overly advanced:
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I had always been curious about the old “one tooth off” theory. Specifically; how many degrees will the timing actually move if the distributor is stabbed one tooth out of it’s proper mesh point with the cam.
Here is what I found:
There are 13 teeth on the distributor drive gear.
So if the distributor is stabbed one tooth out of position, the timing of the spark will be advanced (or retarded as the case may be) about 28 degrees in relation to it’s associated post.
There are 8 posts in the distributor cap spaced evenly around the 360 degree arc.
That works out to 45 degrees of separation between one post to the next.
For the sake of argument, let’s say that being one tooth off in the retarded (CW) direction will cause the rotor to be about halfway between the #1 and the #8 post when it fires the #1 plug.
If you get frustrated trying to get it stabbed correctly, read this:
http://www.junkyardgenius.com/ignition/dist01.html