ok, figured it out, it was something small... those two little sleeves that the allen bolts go through were sticking out and stopping me from pushing the caliper in... pushed those out the way and it slid right it, then i used some needle nose pliers to pull the inside pad back up so i could slide the bolts in (they hold the inside pad up at the top by the tab.
so this tab
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and this one needed to be pushed back towards the motor
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ah now i feel better... but after checking out the rest of the brake section, i want new rotors and calipers. lol
time for a beer
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yes, the shock is broken off the top mount... thats tomorrows project
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